Break Ke Baad

5 Sep

Note: For those of you who dint understand the tittle.. it’s very unlikely that you will go on to read my post… but still as i would assume it to be my moral responsibility… the tittle “Break ke Baad” (in Hindi) suggests “After a Break”

It’s been sooooooooooo long… and i feel like i don’t know how to blog anymore. And when i say long… I really do mean long… my last post was in January 2011

It’s amazing what a little Appreciation and few Encouraging words can do to you.

RETHINKING: makes me realize … two years back… I had a very dear friend who relentlessly and sometimes with unnecessary praising pushed me towards writing. Today unfortunately, we aren’t that close anymore.. Mainly because we are a couple of countries apart now !

An old article i read recently – ‘The Art of the Compliment’ published on Psychology Today’s website [http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200403/the-art-the-compliment] evidently credits compliments for playing a vital role in creating a positive social atmosphere and enhancing the chances of favorable outcomes almost by MAGIC.

OR SO IT SEEMS

Compliments very effectively boost confidence and aid self-esteem. It’s as if like we humans are hungry for it! Every action we undertake, if welcomed with appreciative words becomes a reason for us to be filled with pride.

But, like i have always believed… everything in average amounts is acceptable. If you let these get to your head and heavily influence your direction of thought [OH dear are you in trouble then].

Excessive compliments are bound to make compliment seekers vain. Vanity is a clear attribute of an egotistical maniac. There is a very thin line at the edge of having a good self – esteem … half a step forward and you are into the vanity zone ! Compliment those who accept your compliments with grace. Your precious words are wasted on people who believe compliments are their birth right (NOT HAPPENING AT ALL!).

Furthermore, there is another case of extremist, people who believe they don’t deserve compliments AT ALL. People with wounded self -esteems. So heavily affected that they sometimes can’t help but think that someone who compliments them is doing it out of pity or is just being insincere!

And then there are those who live to do things just to impress people around them and earn compliments. It’s a rat race for them… for most people who fall into this category, begin this race in their school years. At that stage it could be as good as wanting to be the first student to solve a problem so that the teacher pats your back. People who overdo it are actually funny to watch. Once you start interpreting their actions and understand that their only intention behind anything they do is to look good to others and gain compliments, they become hilarious. [Trust me look for a person of this kind among the people you know, I am sure you will find at least one.!]

Moving on, what about the people we know who are truly just misers when it comes to appreciating or praising someone. It’s almost like they are hoarding up compliments [big haha]. Some psychologists suggest that these people are very insecure and therefore don’t allow themselves to appreciate others even if they deserve it !

Mark Twain was noted to have said: “I can live for two months on a good compliment

Try explaining this sentence to yourself. I personally believe a good compliment isn’t the one that has been said using the most beautiful words, but the compliment that just comes from the compliment givers heart and you would know you deserve it. People may not always be liberal with words, but you would know that a pleasant smile and a simple “good” are worth it.

P.S. – compliment someone with sincerity !

The Bond… THAT Bond…!

11 Jan

Sincerity is so unbelievably rare…!

Leave alone judging… it is just too difficult to understand people to begin with…!

To be honest and let them know? Or to lie to keep them happy?

When you are completely aware that 1 sentence spoken can shake their entire being… what would you choose to do…?

Words are my best friend… because they listen to me… quietly…. Acceptingly..!

Sometimes… you don’t need anyone to solve your problem…

Sometimes… you just need someone to willingly listen to what you have to say…

Without judging… without being opinionated….!

What defines a friend…?

It is always the quality of time spent together… not the quantity… for sure!

Someone who will cheer you up no matter how badly it has rained on you…

Someone who always gets you to notice the sunshine…

Someone who is just a call away… that bond is so unbelievably rare!

So hopelessly uncommon.

Hollow Feelings… Shallow Words…

24 Dec

The time spent together just turns into distant.. faded.. memories…  live them through as much as u want in your mind… its something that is never coming back.. ever…!

Forgive and forget… just sounds simple… but is it really possible… to forget what you’ve gone through..?

They say you learn from your experiences… which indirectly means… you don’t ever forget right…?

Is it ok to let your past experiences reflect on or influence your current thoughts…?

Is it normal..?

Is this how it is supposed to be…?

Words said in anger… are words just blurted out without any meaning… or are they the actual thoughts of a person…?

No matter how hard you try to let go… you still remember right…? Is that referred to as being stuck up…?

You may WANT to remember the 100 good times that you shared.. but sometimes… the one extremely bad thing that happened washes it all away…

Its just a bad … sad… phase.. maybe… but its surely difficult to overcome it…

Trying to focus all your positivity towards letting it go .. just doesn’t work all the time right…?

You just end up feeling that you’ve been trying to think positive and hoping for a happy ending for no apparently logical reason…

How long are you expected… to hold on…?

To be positive…?

To be nice…?

How long…? When will I ever ‘actually’ feel positive…?

Why do I always have to force myself to be positive…?

EXPECTATIONS – good or bad…? Just pure pressure…!

Your outlook means so many different things to different people…

Living up to them is not always easy…

And sometimes … or rather most of the times.. it just changes and/or alters the person you truly are…

 

Ever felt like you expected something from someone… maybe a particular level of understanding… and that person just completely overshadows your point of view…?

NEGATIVITY – all around me… and what happens when the people I care about start to sulk as well…

Any which ways… I just end up PRETENDING to be happy… just to see them smile…

Hollow feelings….!

Shallow words…!

Pointless arguments… without a sensible beginning or a definite end…

They say… God never burdens you more than what you can stand…

Did God .. by any chance… over estimate my strength…?

I hope not…!

I pray not…!

LUCK… does that word even have a real meaning…?! I don’t think so any longer…

God Bless..!

Going Cuckoo

9 Oct

Today… I am going to be direct without direction, and will be speaking without specification…

Don’t get my point?

I don’t either…!

They say no one is perfect…

How can that be?

God created us…

God is perfect… he doesn’t make mistakes…

So… he couldn’t have made a mistake while making us right?

Does that mean we are perfect the way we are?

If so… then why are some of us discontented with ourselves?

OMG… if we are where we are supposed to be… and if we are doing what god intends us to do… then do we really have to worry about any thing?

I mean… god has already pre planned our lives right?

So… what do we do now?

Just go with the flow?

(I kno this seems like a really random / vague topic to discuss out here… but what the hell… freedom of press is what I am going to call it! *winks*)

So… if my soul mate is out there some where… and if god intends for us to be together … no matter how horribly I behave with him… he’ll still always be there for me…? Now thats a relief! 😛

They talk about freedom… but where’s the freedom if god gets to decide for us?

(This post does not intend to offend any religious beliefs… its just food for thought!)

We could go on and on forever about such vague things…

There isn’t a possible definite conclusion to any of this…

Why I wrote about all this today?

Uh… I don’t know… who cares…

You ended up reading it to the end anyways… haha…

I feel low… but I don’t know why…

6 Oct

Have you ever felt this way?

You just know there is something wrong about this day…

But you just can’t point a finger at it …

There has been a lot going on with me recently…

Maybe it’s because I miss some of my friends (Tj and G3)

Maybe it’s because I don’t turn 18 until next year… (Oh I HATE this one)

Maybe it’s because I dint like what I had for lunch today…

Maybe I woke up on the wrong side of the bed today…

Maybe…

Hey! Wait…! There is only 1 side to my bed… there is a solid wall on the other side!!  =___=

I am losing it…

I guess this day is doomed to be overshadowed by the thick dark clouds of uncertainty …

Thick dark PURPLE clouds… I like purple! 🙂

I know what you are thinking… you probably never want to read my blog posts ever again…

Well… boo hoo for you!

I write to feel better… and it sure helps…!

I think it’s going to take a while longer for those purple clouds to go away…

But I wish all my readers a HAPPIER day!

(Happier as compared to mine… so… that could mean a little or a lot!!)

The Change

17 Aug

It’s a brand new day…

And it’s such a drastic change…

  1. From mommy waking me up in the morning to get dressed for school… to me setting my own alarm clock and waking up at the first ring…
  2. From waiting for the school bus… to rushing to take the earliest possible metro…
  3. From waiting for recess at school… to forgetting to eat because of the work load…

I know I sound like a 40- something analyzing my lifestyle and missing my childhood…

But… I have realized… you don’t have to be 40 to feel the difference…

I’m not even a graduate yet… I have recently completed my high school studies… and had the chance to do a summer job…

Most of my days were spent missing just being around friends… seeing each and EVERY ONE of them EVERY morning! (Even the ones I dint like that much!)

I used to start working on my school assignments the same day that they had to be submitted…

Or… even better… I used to copy most of them from my classmates!!

I never even thought about it twice!

And now… since I am working… I HAVE to do whatever I am asked to do…

I can’t postpone any of it…!!

There are situations when I feel lost… and I don’t know what to do …

But I don’t have the option to turn back and check with a friend how to go about it…

NO… I’m not being tortured by my boss… he is pretty helpful actually… but then… it’s just “not the same anymore… “

And when I make the same statement in front of my parents… they go like… “What did you expect?”

I don’t know… I don’t know what I expected… really…

Oh and I have lost count of all the embarrassing moments I have had! =_=

  1. I had to call an elevator contractor named: “Su Kim” … and I asked for Ms. Su Kim… And later found out it was a Mr. Su Kim
  2. There can be names like “Nacho” and “Cholo”
  3. People shriek like maniacs if there is jalapeno in their subway sandwich!
  4. If a coworker orders cake for his birthday… there are people who will fight for the canned cherry topping!

Those are just a few…

All in all … it isn’t such a bad experience actually… not bad at all…

  1. I was the youngest intern… so I get treated extra nicely… !
  2. I get paid even for weekends…
  3. The feeling that money earned with hard work give you is… irreplaceable!
  4. The joy of being “INDEPENDENT”
  5. Adding to your pocket money without having to explain to your dad why you need an allowance raise…!

Just feels so good!

I miss school… but I am happy doing what I do as of now…

Collogues can never replace classmates…

Tea break can never replace recess…

Overtime can never replace detention…

But we don’t really have a choice here…

Like any other person out there…

I wanted to be a “grown up” when I was younger…

And now… I want to go out in the evenings and play hop scotch!

There are as many positives as there are negatives…

And I don’t know if I have really come to terms with this change…

I don’t know if I ever will…

But I don’t intend to give up…

I always have and always will enjoy every new sunshine filled morning…!

Life always gives you challenges right?

I intend to overcome each and every one of them with a smile… =)

I Don’t Know …

8 Jul

I don’t know…

What do you really mean when you say that…?

Earlier People used it as a answer for question they really dint know about…

Like if someone asked me… what is the diameter of the earth?

I would try thinking about it for a minute or two then just shrug my shoulders resort to saying

“I don’t know”  … because I don’t…

But not any more… now… it wouldn’t really think for those two minutes… I would just google the earth’s diameter…

Googling… the god of new age…

There’s nothing it doesn’t know…

It over flows with facts and latest news from around the world…

But recently… the internet has gone a step further and provides you with loads of self help articles too…

Whether you need help using a software or you need help asking out the love of your life

It knows everything… you have a problem… google it… there are probably a million people out there who have come across the same issue … solved it… and then written articles about it to be posted on the net so that it is available to all the other helpless souls out there…

awww… how sweet…

yea right…

I  would have humble answered the question stating the I don’t know the diameter or the  earth… and then maybe asked another person if they knew the answer to it… or maybe flipped through a geography book to find out for myself…

But no… since I am served the answer within seconds… I can boast that there isn’t a thing I can’t possibly know… or rather there isn’t possibly any thing I cant find out in seconds

This isn’t truly being smart…  but then again… what exactly is “being smart”

Does being smart mean having a super fast internet connection so that you can google stuff… or does being smart mean having a parrot like memorizing capacity… hm… I don’t know…

I am going to have to google the meaning of being smart now… haha…

The irony of it all…